Mariah Sage on Enjoying Parenting and Releasing Mom Guilt Through Simple Shifts

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Katie: Hello, and welcome to “The Wellness Mama Podcast.” I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and wellnesse.com. That is wellness with an E on the tip. And this episode is all about parenting, and how you can launch mother guilt and revel in parenting extra via some easy shifts that make your complete household happier. I’m right here with Mariah Sage, who does precisely this. She helps mother and father elevate empowered youngsters, enhance their household dynamics, and truly benefit from the parenting course of whereas releasing issues like mother guilt and societal expectations which are comparatively new to our technology. She makes use of a piece of a mixture of instinct, techniques, and clear relevant expertise to create some actually tangible shifts right here, and we discuss numerous these at present. She has a background in psychology, and almost a decade working within the childcare business. And now her focus and keenness in life is to assist households dwell and work with extra concord.

 

In this episode, we undergo issues like why at present’s mothers really feel elevated strain and mother guilt in comparison with different generations? How we are able to do all of it, however not all of sudden and what to do as a substitute? The purpose why of mothers can really feel like they’re shedding themselves in motherhood and how you can transfer previous that? Why what we mannequin issues greater than what we are saying and how you can use this to assist our household have a calmer life? Why youngsters want certainty and techniques, and why leaning into this may relieve numerous that mother stress? As nicely as some sensible steps to start out implementing techniques that make household life simpler. And I’ll have hyperlinks within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm to extra assets on this matter, in addition to to Mariah’s work if you wish to proceed studying from her. But with out additional ado, let’s be a part of Mariah Sage. Mariah, welcome. Thanks a lot for being right here.

 

Mariah: Thank you. I’m excited.

 

Katie: Me too. And we’re gonna discuss what I believe are some actually, actually necessary subjects for mothers at present. But earlier than we leap into that, I’ve a be aware in my present notes that you just had been homeschooled till tenth grade and you bought to develop up touring rather a lot with your loved ones. And I’d love to listen to a bit bit about that, and possibly additionally most likely how that knowledgeable possibly your strategy to maturity and parenting. And I’m positive there was move over into numerous elements of life.

 

Mariah: Yeah, completely. So I grew up in an enormous household, and I used to be homeschooled till tenth grade. And my mother has truly been within the teaching business for the reason that ’80s. So I prefer to say that I grew up behind a seminar room. So my mother and father held workshops everywhere in the world, and my siblings and I obtained to develop up, touring with them and being part of their work, which had an enormous affect on what I do at present.

 

Katie: Wow. That sounds superb. And talking of the work that you just do at present, I believe there’s gonna be so many necessary factors we’re gonna get into at present. To begin broad, I believe it’s not a secret primarily based on social media interactions and memes, mothers at present appear to be largely overwhelmed. And there appears to be much more strain on our technology of mothers than there was in earlier generations. I do know earlier than she died, simply conversations I had with my grandmother, for example, like, she was blown away at a few of the issues that our technology internalizes, and focuses on, and hyper-focuses on relating to motherhood. And I keep in mind her telling me, like, it truly isn’t purported to be this tough. Like, take a deep breath. And you’ve gotten so many nice factors associated to this and so many tangible techniques for folks. But I believe to start out broad, let’s discuss what does it imply to have this extra relaxed and eased strategy to parenting? Because I believe it has turn into this big, demanding factor that possibly it doesn’t need to be, and also you clarify this so nicely.

 

Mariah: Yeah, undoubtedly. I really like that story of it being form of one thing that’s…it’s new, actually, proper, that older generations had a greater understanding for the best way we may strategy parenting, and that it will probably simply be this, like, pure a part of our lives as a substitute of getting to be the one a part of our lives or the factor that takes over our identification or that…you recognize, I believe the messaging we get is if you’re a mother that in the event you’re not exhausted, and in the event you’re not overwhelmed, and in the event you’re not form of self-sacrificing, you then’re doing one thing unsuitable, proper? But truly that, you recognize, there’s a reality that, you recognize, parenting is at all times gonna be exhausting, proper? I imply, youngsters are tough. They will problem you. And there’s at all times going to be tough elements of getting youngsters.

 

But in the end, it doesn’t need to be as exhausting as we make it, proper? There generally is a sense of ease. And having an easeful strategy to parenting to me implies that when these challenges come up, that you know the way to reply, that you’ve a plan. That you’re capable of keep in your middle, even when there’s chaos round you or when one in every of your youngsters goes via a tough part or when any of the, you recognize, pure challenges of parenting come round, that we’ve got techniques and we’ve got approaches that enable us to know how you can cope with them with out getting utterly thrown off our middle.

 

Katie: Yeah, I believe that’s actually necessary. And I don’t keep in mind the precise phrases of it however I noticed a meme one time that encompassed a lot of it. And it was mainly, like, I’ll simply be over right here making an attempt to maintain my youngsters, like, bodily fed and emotionally secure with out helicoptering, whereas, you recognize, being like conserving the home clear, however not too clear. Because practical, it was like this complete listing of contrasting expectations that mothers typically really feel in at present’s tradition. And I do suppose there’s a component of that that’s perpetuated by social media as a result of we solely usually put the great elements of our lives on social media. And in earlier generations, we weren’t uncovered to each different mom on the planet, you recognize, on a regular basis, similar to we weren’t uncovered to information from everywhere in the world, on a regular basis. And there are psychological approaches to that. But I believe it additionally touches on this concept of mother guilt. And I’d love so that you can form of delve into this, possibly clarify the place that is coming from, why we’re seeing this a lot extra in our technology than we’ve got in earlier generations.

 

Mariah: Yeah, actually, I believe a lot of it, such as you stated, is that this social media tradition, proper? It’s like this factor that being a mother has to look a sure means. And so an enormous a part of what I educate mother and father is that, you recognize, being an amazing mother or father is absolutely about drowning out the noise, and it will probably really feel ironic to say that as a type of parenting professional, proper? But in the end, I inform folks, you recognize, let go of the consultants, drop the recommendation, and get again to, what’s your strategy to parenting? What are your loved ones values, and the way do you form of silence all of that and get again to who you’re and what’s necessary to you as a household?

 

Because in any other case, the strain, it’s unimaginable, proper? There is that this strain like, you recognize, you must have an amazing profession, you must be the proper mother, you must look Instagram prepared each single day. And that’s simply not practical for everyone, proper? And you are able to do all of these issues, however you possibly can’t do them all of sudden. And, you recognize, you possibly can’t attempt to be the surface model of what motherhood has been made out to be. And so, you recognize, mothers are being taught that they need to really feel responsible. They’re being taught that in the event that they’re not good, then, you recognize, that they’re doing a nasty job. It’s actually exhausting to beat this cultural messaging and know that we’re allowed to be completely happy, and we’re allowed to have enjoyable, and we’re allowed to take care of ourselves. And what we’re being informed is that shedding your self in motherhood is regular. And that doesn’t need to be the case, proper? Actually, the reality is that we may be the mothers that we wanna be and we are able to nonetheless have the lives we wanna have, and we are able to nonetheless be the folks we wanna be. But that’s not what society is telling us.

 

Katie: Yeah. So two belongings you simply stated, I believe one being, we are able to do all of it however not all of sudden is such an necessary level. And additionally that there’s this moms seeming to get misplaced in motherhood, which didn’t appear to be the case in earlier generations almost as a lot, both. And objectively, there is also extra I believe on numerous our plates than there was once simply because there’s much more in a fast-paced world and we’re managing extra. And I do know after I was a child, my mother and father weren’t having to determine how you can assist me navigate social media, and there simply wasn’t as many components to navigate. But I additionally suppose you’re proper, that there’s these societal perceptions that we internalize.

 

And I’d love to speak a bit bit extra about that, how will we not lose ourselves in motherhood and why is it so necessary? Because I believe there’s been a bit little bit of mis-messaging round this concept of self-care that really possibly perpetuates extra mother guilt, as a result of then it’s truly intensifying the strain that, oh, if we simply added that to our to-do listing and did that proper, then we’d have sufficient power to do every little thing else good. When, in the event you return to the core of it, and form of return to first rules, probably the most highly effective factor we are able to do for our youngsters is what we mannequin, not what we are saying, and the way many people meet, included, for positive, completely different instances are modeling an unhealthy means of navigating that. So I’d love to simply form of go deeper on that idea.

 

Mariah: Definitely. Yeah, I really feel like that’s one thing that, you recognize, I at all times say my mother fashions so nicely for me is that, you recognize, she was, in fact, a tremendous, devoted mother who made tons of sacrifices for us, however she additionally actually modeled for us that taking good care of your self and residing the life you wanna dwell, is a part of being a very good mother or father. Right?

 

I imply, it truly is… It’s simple to lose your self in motherhood due to all of the strain. But in the end, the best way you reside your life is the best way your youngsters are going to dwell their lives. And after I look again on my childhood, the instances after I was the happiest had been the instances when my mother was the happiest. I at all times keep in mind that to be true. And I believe that’s so necessary for mothers to recollect is that, you recognize, your youngsters are so attuned to you. They’re so delicate to you. And it’s so refined, however they choose up on every little thing. So it’s not simply the exterior belongings you do. It’s like the best way you are feeling and the best way you be in your life is what your youngsters are going to select up on, and the best way they’re going to dwell their lives, and the best way they’re going to answer the life round them. And so, the factor of self-care, I completely agree, it’s like there’s this messaging on the market, like, oh, self-care, have a glass of wine, take a shower, do all this stuff. Right? But is that really educating us to actually deal with ourselves and is it truly giving mothers a sensible method to deal with themselves of their lives with their youngsters? Right?

 

Because I believe you inform numerous mothers, you recognize, double down on self-care. And the query is, like, how do I try this? You know, like, virtually, what does that appear like as a mother? And in order that’s the place I imagine household techniques actually are available in and having good rhythms and having good boundaries, and having techniques arrange in order that when breakdowns occur along with your youngsters, you know the way to reply and it doesn’t need to turn into this factor that builds up over time and continues to be a problem, proper? Or, you recognize, if you’re stressed and also you want a break as a mother, how do you truly get that along with your youngsters? You know, what does that appear like virtually as a mom? And in order that’s the place having techniques and having, you recognize, ways in which you clearly deal with issues in your loved ones is form of the important thing to with the ability to end up once more as a mom, or to not lose your self within the first place.

 

Katie: Yeah, I believe that’s so key And I’ve observed that in my very own life, as I figured it out slowly, I believe I used to be a sluggish learner on this however that always the mother fatigue and that overwhelm, it doesn’t truly come from all of the stuff we’ve got to do, though there may be a component of that. But it comes from issues like query fatigue, when youngsters don’t have certainty about these techniques and what’s occurring, and they also have to repeatedly ask us, and we’re the bottleneck of the questions. But additionally on that modeling piece, I had a fairly harsh realization personally on this lately the place I observed my older daughter who was… She was the explanation I form of began to really face my trauma and unpack numerous issues was seeing her see me within the mirror, taking a look at myself, and registering in her face that I used to be taking a look at myself with this, like, very self-critical eye, and that’s most likely the primary time she had ever thought to take a look at her personal physique in a self-critical means. So it led to this stunning journey of therapeutic that trauma and therapeutic my physique.

 

But then, the previous couple of months, I had observed she was similar to, centered on being small and tiny and, like, wished to have, like, tiny sneakers and never like develop. And I couldn’t work out why. And then it was that harsh realization of, oh, it’s as a result of I’ve been centered on being small these final couple years. And I’ve by no means verbalized that, however she picked up on the power. And it was a very good reminder, like, oh, now I must mannequin being robust and nourishing my physique and the languaging that goes together with that. I believe the modeling is tremendous, tremendous necessary.

 

But I’m actually additionally glad that you just introduced up the techniques elements. And I’d love to speak a bit bit about possibly some tangible ways in which mother and father can begin bringing extra of those techniques and bringing extra ease into parenting. Because like I stated, I noticed in my very own life, it’s not the getting it finished essentially, there’s a time and a spot once we’ve simply added an excessive amount of to the calendar however typically, it’s the uncertainty or the managing all of it in our head, after which the children having to depend upon us for solutions as a result of there aren’t clear techniques. At least for me, that was an enormous explanation for stress. So I’d love to listen to from you. I do know you do numerous work on this space with, what are some tangible methods we are able to begin bringing that ease again in?

 

Mariah: Yeah, undoubtedly. Yeah, it’s humorous, as a result of I believe that, you recognize, household techniques are so necessary. And to me, they’re form of the floor degree in household, proper? So they maintain the container for all the opposite elements of our household. So they maintain the container for the relationships, and the connections, and the entire form of issues that make up actually being a household. And so with a purpose to arrange techniques that basically work, what’s form of humorous is that you must let go of the techniques to start with. So numerous the time, the start steps are counterintuitive, and it’s that you must first have a look at your loved ones and say, okay, have we gotten caught up in energy struggles? Are there breakdowns which are occurring every single day? Are there conflicts which are occurring again and again? And how can we unwind and let go of a few of these issues and are available again to our connections, and {our relationships}, and our dynamics, and the issues that make us a household?

 

And so what that appears like to start with, numerous the time, goes out of resistance to your youngsters utterly. So what occurs is that when there’s not techniques and there’s not that predictability, such as you stated, that children actually need, then stress is available in, proper, and children turn into tougher, they usually begin asking one million questions every single day, they usually begin resisting the foundations and bounds as a result of they search for certainty. And so, once we can form of let go and reconnect with them, then we open up area to implement and to insert new techniques and new boundaries that work for our household.

 

Because in the event you attempt to begin from a spot of energy struggles and tough issues which have constructed up and mother is pressured, and overwhelmed, and drained, and children don’t know what to anticipate, and you then wanna are available in and say, “Okay, now these are all the new rules. And this has been your schedule. And, you know, this is the new system.” Then your youngsters are gonna resist you utterly, proper? They’re not going to have the ability to float. And in order that’s at all times step one is let go a bit bit, you recognize, don’t ever let go of these bottom-line boundaries. But, you recognize, select your battles, in the end. Choose your battles and form of let go of the necessity to management every little thing and know that the construction can come from that form of letting go.

 

Katie: Yeah, that’s an amazing level. And then from there, what does it imply…? I believe possibly, like, the thought of household techniques could be a considerably new idea, to some folks listening. And I talked about this a bit bit within the context of my very own realization, which was in enterprise, I had all these techniques for every little thing. And after I hit my level of just about full burnout, I felt all this stress, and I considered letting all of the enterprise stuff go, as a result of I used to be like, “I can’t keep all these plates in the air,” however realized the stresses isn’t truly coming from the enterprise. It’s coming from dwelling. So why is that?

 

And realizing, oh, it’s as a result of in enterprise, I’ve clearly outlined techniques and I do know the place issues are going. And oh, yeah, I let folks truly be concerned on the workforce and have autonomy of their roles. And we’ve constructed a tradition round that. And what if I utilized these identical concepts at dwelling? But I believe, like, even understanding the broad idea of that, it may be exhausting generally to materialize in your head what good household techniques appear like. So I’d love so that you can speak to us a bit about, like, what are some beginning factors for good household techniques that we are able to put in place? I totally agree along with your level about it must be finished, like, with good management and aligning motivations versus exterior drive, which is, in fact, we wish our youngsters to be internally motivated, not mother forcing them within the long-term. And I do know, anyone who’s had a two-year-old is aware of firsthand as a mother, you possibly can’t drive a toddler to do something. So what are a few of the stepping stones into creating these good household techniques?

 

Mariah: Yeah, so I believe you’re so proper that household techniques can really feel international as a result of we’re not taught to in the end run our households like a enterprise. But that’s, you recognize, what you stated about household tradition, or what you stated about enterprise tradition is true for household tradition too, proper. So your youngsters want to have the ability to really feel autonomy. They want to have the ability to be concerned within the guidelines. And they want to have the ability to really feel like part of issues and part of the workforce. And so, beginning out, what I at all times inform folks is search for the one a part of your day that’s probably the most difficult. If you simply wanna begin with one system, search for the one a part of the day the place you’re having the largest breakdowns over and again and again, and select a predictable means of coping with it. So, you recognize, the factor about my strategy is that I don’t educate folks a particular parenting model, as a result of I don’t imagine that there’s one proper method to elevate youngsters, proper? We all have our personal model. And one of the simplest ways to mother or father is the best way that displays you, and who you’re, and your values. And so, as a substitute of in search of some exterior system that’s going to be the best method to do your morning routine or the best method to deal with bedtime, it’s like look into your loved ones, and see what must occur, and preserve it actually easy.

 

So for some folks, bedtime routine is identical 4 issues occur in the identical order each night time. And that’s all it’s, proper? And then simply deal with that, and try this over and again and again. And consistency is so key with any form of system, as a result of a lot of the time, you recognize, it’s most likely one of many largest breakdowns I see that folks cope with is they arrive to me they usually say, you recognize, “We tried everything, right? We tried this and tried that. We tried that.” And I say, “Okay, well, how long did you try it for?” And individuals are like, “Oh, well, we did that for three days. And then it didn’t work. And then we did this for three days and it didn’t work.” And so the factor about techniques is that they actually require consistency, particularly for youngsters. And so, you recognize, in the event you select a system you’re going to implement, do it for a month earlier than you resolve if it really works or not as a result of it doesn’t matter what the system is or what the strategy is as a lot because it issues that you’re in step with it. And then over time, your youngsters will modify, and your loved ones will discover your rhythm and your move.

 

Katie: That’s an amazing level. And I believe, no less than for me, I can say I used to be getting in my very own means with techniques at completely different instances, due to a few of these components like mother guilt and a few of these cultural beliefs about parenting, the place I needed to unpack myself and notice I used to be feeling responsible or unhealthy about having my youngsters truly do issues round the home. And, like, oh, nicely, the place is that coming from? Because logically, it’s truly nice for everyone if they’re concerned round the home, and if they’ll really feel possession of one thing. And I obtained to unpack elements of my control-freak nature or elements of this concept that I wanted to do every little thing for them.

 

And that really led to a shift that I’ve talked about earlier than, which is now one in every of my core parenting beliefs, which is that I don’t do something for them that they’re able to doing themselves. And that may be a constant factor. And so that they know that. And so after they at age 4 or 5 are able to studying to do their very own laundry, they do. And then now this can be a factor they take possession for. And it’s stunning as a result of there’s pure penalties built-in, similar to there are for us as adults the place if I don’t do my laundry, I don’t have garments to put on. And they be taught that lesson. And they get to connect that pure motivation, pure consequence, versus me being this exterior mediator of you will need to do that factor as a result of I stated so. It’s like educating the pure lesson. And additionally, I believe the opposite a part of that’s them attending to really feel like they really are contributing to the household as a result of they’re, and like making a household tradition that encompasses all of that. Let’s speak a bit bit extra about that, on that be aware, of form of the cultural beliefs about parenting that appear to have shifted within the final couple generations particularly.

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah, there are such a lot of beliefs that we’re fed today. And once more, I believe a lot of it goes again to this social media tradition that we dwell in, proper, and the best way that we’re all absorbing memes and content material all day lengthy that tells us this stuff that need to be true. And numerous it’s humor-based, however then we internalize that also. Right. And one of many huge ones, in fact, is this concept that you must be overwhelmed to be a very good mother or father, proper? That in the event you’re not stressed, that you just’re simply not doing a very good job. And it takes rather a lot I believe to go towards that and your self. You know, I believe it takes rather a lot to say, no, you recognize what? For numerous us, like we’ve waited years to turn into mother and father, and elevating youngsters is one thing we’re enthusiastic about. And then right here we’re, you recognize, getting caught on this perception that it must be so tough or it must be so unfavorable.

 

And it’s so humorous, I simply had a child. And once we’re out and about with the newborn, you recognize, I’ve folks coming as much as us continually saying, “Oh, enjoy it. Enjoy it while it lasts. You know, it goes by too quickly. And you know, they’ll grow up before you know it.” And it’s so humorous as a result of I’ve been reflecting rather a lot on simply how a lot we get that remark once we’re out. And I believe a lot of that’s that, you recognize, it goes by in a blink of a watch, and numerous the time we don’t even get to take pleasure in it as a lot as we need to as a result of we’re so caught up on this cultural perception that’s been fed to us that it must be so tough. And so it’s form of like reclaiming your need for what you need parenting to appear like. You know, what would you like your life as a mother or father to be, and what would you like your expertise of parenting to appear like, and how are you going to design that for your loved ones? Because there’s so lots of this stuff that in the event you allow them to are available in, they’ll actually take over your loved ones, proper?

 

There’s, like, having youngsters will damage your relationship. That’s one other huge one which we hear, proper? Like, oh, after getting youngsters, your relationship along with your accomplice simply isn’t gonna be the identical. You’ll by no means have time for one another. But does that need to be true? Right? Aren’t there folks on the market who’ve unimaginable relationships and unimaginable connections, and who’re elevating huge households? Or, you recognize, once more, turning into a mom means shedding your identification. And can we cease lengthy sufficient to query these issues and say, “Okay, is this true for me or do I wanna let this be true for me?”

 

Katie: Yeah, I believe that is a useful tip in each side of life, truly, that anytime we really feel a powerful emotion, and I personally say it, particularly if it’s an emotion that’s connected to, like, guilt, like mother guilt, or concern, or disgrace, it’s an amazing alternative to be taught a lesson as a result of normally, that’s not truly essentially an objectively true assertion. It’s there’s one thing connected within us. And it’s an exquisite likelihood to discover. And they’re folks, like Byron Katie, who discuss that, like, to your level asking, “Is this true? Well, what else could be true?” And beginning to unpack it. And that’s a gorgeous factor to mannequin for our youngsters as nicely.

 

It looks as if one other societal expectation that no less than I solely have clearly skilled on this technology, but it surely appears new to our technology is this concept that we’re purported to entertain our youngsters on a regular basis. I don’t suppose my grandmother felt any guilt about the concept she was purported to be, like, her youngsters’s leisure and instructor, and, you recognize, puppet grasp, and no matter, all this stuff to maintain them from ever being bored. And I’d love to listen to your tackle this. I really feel like that’s a fairly pervasive cultural one proper now.

 

Mariah: Yeah, it truly is. You know, it’s simply one thing I hear on a regular basis from mother and father. I used to be simply telling a narrative the opposite day of a shopper that I labored with, the place we obtained on our first name and he or she was, like, nervous to inform me that her I believe 4 or 5-year-old daughter, performed by herself fortunately for, like, as much as two hours within the playroom. And she was like, “Am I a bad mom for letting my daughter play by herself for that long? Like, do I need to be entertaining her?” And I informed her, “Of course not. You know, kids are supposed to play. It’s what they’re supposed to do,” proper?

 

And for some purpose, I genuinely don’t know the place this got here from however for some purpose, we’ve got been taught to imagine, and I believe it most likely ties into this factor of like us needing to be self-sacrificing to be good moms, proper? With that comes this factor of, like, it’s your job to entertain your youngsters 24/7, you recognize, make sure that there’s at all times a structured exercise, take them, drive them backwards and forwards to extracurriculars, you recognize. As quickly as they’re dwelling, give them your full consideration. And so, I believe that what’s actually necessary is, once more, that you just arrange techniques that you just educate your youngsters methods of with the ability to play and entertain themselves, but in addition that then when you’re with them, that you just’re capable of be extra current. And that’s the excellence that occurs if you cease making an attempt to entertain your youngsters on a regular basis is hastily, you’ve gotten the bandwidth to be current with them, proper? Because in the event you’re continually making an attempt to entertain them, how are you ever going to have the ability to give them your full presence when you’ve gotten a life to take care of?

 

Katie: Yeah, I believe that’s an amazing level. And I believe one other half for me of releasing that was the concept not solely am I not being a nasty mother if I allow them to entertain themselves. This truly is a vital psychological step for them. And for some purpose, in our tradition, possibly due to simply fixed stimulation from all pals, we’ve gotten this concept that boredom is unhealthy. But boredom is definitely actually necessary for youths as a result of that’s after they discover ways to, like, discover creativity from the within. And that’s truly like a really priceless ability for them. And as adults, nobody is entertaining us on a regular basis. And we’ve got Netflix, we are able to flip to I suppose always. But we’re truly giving them a priceless framework to have the ability to deal with a really real-life grownup ability, which I believe is one other necessary level. Because I believe one factor that may be an antidote to a few of the cultural pressures, is I have a look at it as going again to first rules, and likewise having a protracted strategy versus simply being caught within the day-to-day. And the thought of what are the tangible expertise I need to ensure that my youngsters be taught whereas they’re in my care?

 

And for me, the reply was issues like creativity, and significant pondering, and the power to ask good questions, and to be taught quickly from data that’s out there. And so then how do I assist them domesticate these expertise versus, like, how do I make sure that they don’t expertise discomfort at present? And that simply helped me have an extended strategy I believe there. I additionally suppose that if you’re already a busy mother or father and also you’re caught on this cycle, it may be exhausting to even take that breath to step again. And, like I stated, there might be a degree of there could be an excessive amount of on the schedule. And there’s a time and a spot for decreasing the quantity that’s on the schedule. But extra typically, it looks as if these are simply mindset and sensible shifts inside the execution of household life. So what are some ways in which mother and father can begin constructing in additional of that area, to have that ease and calm are available in?

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah, unbiased play, I believe might be the largest ability right here. And it’s precisely what you stated about creativity, and independence, and tedium. I’m such an advocate of children being bored. You know, I believe for many of us, form of in our technology that was simply constructed into our childhoods. You know, and I believe, you recognize, you joke about Netflix, however a part of this type of subject with us having to entertain our youngsters on a regular basis is expertise, proper? It’s the truth that they and we’ve got gotten used to having fixed passive leisure from our expertise, proper, having telephones, and having screens, and reveals, and every little thing that we are able to simply activate. And we’ve misplaced the wonder and the ability of play. I actually imagine that. You know, I believe that youngsters are designed to simply sit in a room and work out from their very own creativeness with toys or with out, you recognize, worlds of their very own and full, you recognize, scapes that they play in for hours and hours.

 

I imply, that’s what I did, as a toddler. I’d sit in a room alone and simply play fake on my own for hours on finish. And these are good childhood recollections. You know, that’s what I attempt to remind mother and father is that, if you suppose again in your childhood, are a few of your finest recollections of play as a result of they’re for me, you recognize. And so, educating that to youngsters in at present’s tradition is a ability, proper? It’s not prefer it was once the place mother and father simply stated, “Go outside and play,” and we needed to determine it out. These youngsters have gotten used to being passively entertained on a regular basis. And so we’ve got to assist them construct that muscle for how you can play once more. And so, that appears like constructing it up in increments. And going again to household techniques, there’s a system that I educate for this, you recognize, the place every day you’re employed a bit bit along with your youngsters, and also you allow them to play by themselves for a short while, and also you simply use numerous acknowledgment, and you utilize numerous constructive reinforcement. And you make it enjoyable and simple however over time you allow them to construct in that area, and also you additionally give them the prospect to be bored.

 

And generally you must say like, “Okay, well, if you’re bored and, you know, there’s nothing to do, then you can just sit,” and that’s okay, you recognize. And ultimately, I assure you in the event you preserve creating that area, however you don’t create an influence battle round it, proper? You don’t drive it, however you simply preserve creating area for it and preserve creating the area for it, your youngsters will discover their play in that area. And that’s most likely the primary means that folks can begin to free themselves up is to show their youngsters to take pleasure in taking part in once more, and to have the ability to entertain themselves and have that form of artistic move.

 

Katie: Yeah, I don’t suppose we are able to overstate, like, really how a lot of a shifts that may be for mothers, I believe even simply that realization for me was so liberating and helped break a few of these societal expectations of not solely am I not being a nasty mother, that is truly a part of serving to information them into wholesome maturity and being a very good mother. And I believe that is one other one which will get tied up in these cultural expectations. When we see the memes that paint in a nasty mild are mothers and grandmas who stated like, “Go outside and play and don’t come back until dinner,” and it’s nearly at all times portrayed as like, are you able to imagine they did that? And I’m like, “Can you believe we’re not doing that?” I’ve heard it stated play is the work of kids. And I really feel like we’ve taken it away from them. And additionally that they are often our biggest lecturers in relearning how you can play. And to tie in that concept of modeling, I do know that’s been a part of my very own evolution of not shedding myself in motherhood and of modeling this for my youngsters was realizing, “Oh, this is a part of my life that I’ve lost.”

 

So what are some areas that I may be artistic, and I can play, and I can present them, these elements of myself and provides them the instance to try this themselves? So whether or not it’s artwork or like studying new bodily issues, or sports activities, I believe them seeing me have the bandwidth to have the ability to try this was additionally an enormous step for them in with the ability to try this as nicely.

 

I believe one thing else actually necessary that you just touched on is that concept that they could have feelings that come up associated to in the event that they’re not used to being bored or in the event that they’re not used to having that area to really simply go play and need to entertain themselves. And as mothers, stepping again and realizing these feelings are legitimate, they’re not essentially unhealthy, like, and never putting an exterior judgment on their feelings, and likewise not fixing it for them. That appears to be like a fall down level if you form of begin implementing this stuff.

 

I do know for me, no less than I can communicate personally. I at instances felt discomfort when my youngsters would have sure feelings, and I noticed it truly had nothing to do with them. It was due to one thing emotionally in me that was being triggered by, “Oh, they’re not supposed to feel angry. They’re not supposed to feel uncomfortable. They’re not…” And one factor that helps me rather a lot was to step again, and pause, and put some area in there, after which truly suppose via, like, how do I assist them really feel and validate this emotion? Because the emotion itself isn’t unhealthy. It’s what they do with the emotion. So how can I as two separate issues, give them the area to really feel their emotion and never choose it internally, and likewise give them steerage round actions that may be a results of an emotion? And simply that step alone appears to have put much more area in place.

 

Mariah: Yeah, undoubtedly. Yeah, I imply, that’s such a bit of each a part of parenting, proper, is like with the ability to maintain area for our child’s feelings with out figuring out with them, or making an attempt to unravel them, or making an attempt to alter them. And it’s undoubtedly part of this, you recognize, and you’ve got to have the ability to use these expertise that I believe are extensively talked about today, like validating your child’s emotions in that second. But that doesn’t communicate to how tough that may be internally. You know, it’s one factor to say out loud, oh, I do know, you’re pissed off, or I do know you’re bored, and also you don’t wanna do that, but it surely’s one other factor to have the ability to handle your individual inside expertise whereas that’s occurring.

 

And I believe, you recognize, mother and father, you must have grace with your self via this course of. You know, it’s gonna take time and you actually do need to keep in mind that it’s a ability today as a result of youngsters are usually not being allowed to play and have that area, they usually’re not being allowed to find that in themselves. And so, if you try this, you’re going towards the grain, you recognize, if you’re doing one thing that the majority mother and father aren’t doing at present. And so, your youngsters may say, you recognize, “Oh, none of my friends have to do this. They get to watch their iPads” or, you recognize, no matter it’s. But yeah, you’ve gotten to have the ability to handle that inside expertise of your individual. And it’s so true that it, numerous the instances our personal discomfort with that emotion.

 

Katie: And I’d like to delve into possibly some like age-specific techniques which are useful at completely different instances and/or for folks listening, there’s most likely going to be the total spectrum of all people from pregnant mothers and mothers of infants as much as youngsters and past. And so, is there a distinction in the event you’re implementing this stuff if you first have youngsters versus what if you have already got “established systems,” possibly they weren’t intentional, however you’ve gotten these established patterns? Can you continue to do that with older youngsters even when it hasn’t at all times been the case in your house?

 

Mariah: Yeah, completely. I imply, I believe that there’s at all times area to alter your parenting practices, whether or not it’s unbiased play, or whether or not it’s the best way you deal with self-discipline in your loved ones, or, you recognize, the best way you talk with one another. There’s at all times room to make modifications. And, you recognize, I’m an enormous advocate of apologizing and telling your youngsters that you just’re eager to make a change. So I believe with older youngsters, you must be actually trustworthy and specific with them once more, whether or not that’s okay, we’re gonna begin engaged on implementing extra unbiased play, and we’ve by no means finished this earlier than. And, you recognize, you possibly can say, “I learned about this, and I wanna share this with you. And I think it’s really important for you to learn. And can we work as a team to figure out how to do this?”

 

And so I believe what actually varies particularly with unbiased play is just like the communication round it, the best way you speak to your youngsters about it, however I’m a believer that from 6 months up, you recognize, youngsters may be flying independently. And so for a bit child, that could be, you recognize, 5 to 10 minutes that they’re fortunately form of cooing round on a blanket on the ground. And for, you recognize, a 10-year-old, it could be that they’re getting misplaced in play for 2 hours straight. So the expectations are completely different. But no matter it’s you’re eager to implement, no matter new system, it’s a matter of taking your time and selecting one factor at a time.

 

So if unbiased play seems like the largest factor that might actually free you up proper now, choose that and work on it every single day a bit bit. So you probably have a bit one, you recognize, have 5 minutes a day, set a timer, you recognize, allow them to… You be, you recognize, 10 ft away in your laptop or cooking dinner, and you’ve got them on a blanket throughout the ground. Or you probably have an 8-year-old, you recognize, have them go as much as the playroom for quarter-hour, after which allow them to come again down. And over time, it’ll construct. So, the largest distinctions I believe by age are the communication, which I believe for lots of fogeys is fairly intuitive, proper? You know your youngsters and the way they convey, what age they’re, what their form of developmental functionality is there. And so yeah, you possibly can taper primarily based on that.

 

Katie: Yeah, you’re proper. I believe communication is a large piece of it in all regards to this.

 

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I do know folks could also be questioning, and a sticking level I hear rather a lot from numerous mothers is like, how do I get my youngsters to do chores at a unique age? That looks as if a quite common one. So I’d love any recommendation you’ve gotten particular to that, monitoring techniques that come into play at completely different ages.

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah. The largest factor with that I believe, is that you recognize, a lot of what you stated earlier on, I take into consideration not forcing youngsters and getting them to really feel autonomy and getting them to really feel prefer it’s their alternative, in some ways, goes a good distance. So, you recognize, you are able to do chore charts, and sticker charts, and issues like that. And these can work to have construction. But to me a household system isn’t essentially these issues. A household system is extra like an settlement that you just’ve provide you with collectively as a household, as a result of I actually imagine that an amazing household system seems like a workforce, that everyone is an equal member, and all people’s contributing, and all people’s part of it. And so, getting your youngsters concerned can appear like sitting them down and saying, you recognize, “What chores do you enjoy doing? What would you be happy to help with around the house? And, you know, how can we set it up so that you are motivated to do this?”

 

And so how that system truly performs out will look completely different, relying on the ages of your youngsters, and how much chores you need their assist with. But it’s actually, you recognize, a matter of getting them concerned and getting their buy-in in order that they’re excited, they usually don’t really feel prefer it’s you forcing them to do it. Because if we form of manufacture these techniques that we need to work, after which we put them on our youngsters, they usually’re simply going to really feel a lack of energy there, proper? So it’s like, how are you going to get them to really feel prefer it’s their thought nearly, you recognize? And then how do you make it enjoyable, you recognize, make it enjoyable, and convey play into it? And for some households, it’s like, you recognize, activate music for quarter-hour within the night, and everybody cleans the home collectively, and do like an influence cleansing session, you recognize.

 

For different households, it’s like, you recognize, the child doesn’t prefer to be informed what to do, and so that you uncover collectively that what works is to jot down them a listing of the issues they want to try this day and slip it beneath their door. So determining what that appears like for your loved ones comes by speaking to your youngsters about it and asking them what they might need and the way they may truly be excited to assist?

 

Katie: Yeah, precisely. And nicely, I used to be most likely a really powerful little one to mother or father after I was a child, as a result of I’ve that persona that on a number of personalities must be defined, just like the insurgent facet of, you possibly can’t inform me what to do and I can’t both. So any form of tremendous inflexible exterior construction, I have a tendency to simply… My intuition is to insurgent towards. And so I needed to be taught that in myself. And it’s the factor I believe we’ve got to assist our youngsters be taught, which is that long-term, this motivation has to return internally. And such as you stated, management is aligning motivations. So how will we do that with out us being the surface drive of strain that will get this stuff to occur? Because that additionally nonetheless retains the emotional burden of that in mother’s camp versus if we get them purchased in, and we’ve got a household tradition round this, and all of us have clear concepts of our household tradition, and our targets, and the place we’re going, they usually have precise possession and really feel precise contribution in what they’re doing. It is an exterior strain from mother and father, it’s all people shifting towards a standard objective collectively, which, in fact, such as you stated, it’s not gonna be an ideal system. There are going to be instances when it’s nonetheless exhausting, however no less than then we’ve got a transparent path that we’re going.

 

Mariah: Yeah, precisely. Yeah, working along with their personalities… And I really like what you stated concerning the persona check, as a result of it’s additionally about taking a look at your youngsters as distinctive people, proper? And one child may want one thing completely different than a unique child. And so, a household system doesn’t essentially imply one system that everyone follows within the household. It’s like taking a look at all people and saying, “Okay, what’s gonna work for each of us, you know?” And so possibly you’ve gotten one child who’s actually motivated by doing issues with you. And so that you guys do a cleansing session collectively, and the opposite one works higher independently, and that’s okay, proper. But I believe it’s very easy to get caught up on this concept that you must deal with all of your youngsters equally. And I’m actually an enormous believer that each child is such a person, and it’s so necessary for us to mother or father them as people. And in order that is available in, in each form of system that you just implement, whether or not it’s the way you deal with your bedtime routine, or the way you deal with conflicts after they come up, the way you set boundaries with them. It’s like have a look at every child and say, “What’s going to work for them and who they are.” And, you recognize, that may really feel sophisticated, I believe as a mother or father, however in the event you all sit down collectively, you possibly can most likely discover a move that serves all people’s personalities and all people’s pursuits.

 

Katie: That’s an amazing level as a result of I believe you’re proper, getting swept up on this thought of equality and equity, it typically may be truly much less honest to your youngsters, as a result of they’re all so completely different. And in the event you apply the identical, I’m gonna do the identical factor with every of you and purchase items in the identical thought for every of you, you’re not gonna truly possibly love them in the best way they every individually must be cherished or spoken to. And I’d love additionally to the touch on a bit bit about…particularly with younger youngsters, it looks as if there may be stress that comes from issues like mood tantrums or siblings combating. Do you’ve gotten any tips or techniques which are useful from the mother’s perspective to information via these?

 

Mariah: Yeah, I imply, I believe the largest factor I at all times say is, once more, consistency is so necessary. So there’s numerous faculties of thought round these issues. And I do have expertise that I educate round them, however most significantly, after I work with somebody, I look to see, what’s their parenting model? Because what works for one mother or father isn’t going to work for one more. So, for instance, I’ve a shopper who has a really, very, very mild parenting strategy and it’s actually tough for her to implement any form of boundaries or self-discipline along with her little one. And so we got here up along with a system that’s actually, actually mild for the way she offers with mood tantrums along with her son. Whereas one other mother or father wants extra construction and extra form of firmness of their parenting. And so, no matter your model is, there’s a system that may work for it, but it surely’s so necessary that you just select one thing you keep it up.

 

So, you recognize, I’ve a neighbor who has a younger daughter who was hitting in school, and he or she was like, “You know, this person is telling me to handle it this way. And this person is telling me to handle it this way.” And I stated, “You know, honestly, it doesn’t matter. I think those are both like good approaches, they’ll both work, but you have to choose one, and you have to feel competent in it, right, you have to own it as a parent that this is what you wanna do and this is how you wanna handle it.” So, I believe that relating to mood tantrums, you recognize, I’m an enormous fan of being actually current with youngsters after they’re emotionally dysregulated, and staying with them via that course of, and validating their emotions, and holding area for them. And I do know that generally as a mother or father, that that breaks down, proper? And it’s like, you get to some extent the place you possibly can’t be within the room anymore, and you must go away.

 

And so a part of like selecting the strategy you’re going to take and selecting the system you’re going to take is to be trustworthy with your self about what’s going to be just right for you, proper? So in the event you’re not the mother or father who can sit via a 20-minute mood tantrum, it’s okay to depart the room for a few minutes, proper? Like, that’s okay to do so long as your little one is in a secure area, and you’re feeling like, you recognize, issues are okay. So it’s actually about selecting one thing that’s gonna be just right for you and being constant, I believe is the primary factor. I believe there’s so many assets on the market for fogeys telling you, “This is the right way to do it or this is the wrong way to do it.” And I actually goal to not be a type of voices, you recognize, as a result of I wanna empower mother and father to look inside and discover the system that’s going to be probably the most aligned for them of their parenting apply.

 

Katie: Yeah, I believe that’s an necessary level for positive. And I do know one factor that helped me internally determine this out, realizing that, typically…I see this in enterprise, I see this in my family, typically there’s a recurring subject if I have a look at it as, oh, that is truly a administration downside. Like, what can I try this I’ve the power to alter that might assist make this much less demanding for everyone? But one factor on this explicit camp that was useful for me was realizing mood tantrums in and of themselves aren’t an issue. I used to be making an attempt to repair an issue that wasn’t truly an issue. It’s an issue if it results in hitting a sibling, or hurting another person, or breaking issues. But I believe typically it may be again to that concept of separating the emotion from the motion. The feelings themselves aren’t unhealthy.

 

And I as an grownup needed to truly do remedy round the truth that I had indifferent from sure feelings as a result of I had internalized as a toddler that they had been both inconvenient, or unhealthy, or dangerous, and that I wasn’t purported to ever really feel offended, or unhappy, or mad. Like, I had indifferent from these. And then I needed to relearn, like, these are regular human feelings. I’m judging them in a means I don’t want to guage them. And how can I each mannequin this and likewise give my youngsters secure methods to grasp and categorical their feelings? And I believe that’s partially issues like giving them phrases to elucidate it past simply, like, I really feel mad. Well, what particularly do you are feeling? Where do you are feeling it in your physique? What does it really feel like? Giving them tangible phrases may help them course of it, but in addition validating, it’s very regular to really feel mad generally.

 

And, you recognize, in the event you wanna have a mood tantrum in your mattress and, like, punch your pillows as exhausting as you possibly can, like, I’ll cheer for you, and let’s discuss it, and let’s course of it. Giving them area for that versus shutting it down, sarcastically, truly makes it, no less than in my home, occur much less typically, I believe as a result of they really feel validated of their expertise. But then nonetheless including that piece of, you’re nonetheless answerable for what you do and your actions it doesn’t matter what your emotion is. And so let’s discuss these two issues, and the way can we work collectively to have a system the place your feelings don’t result in actions which are going to trigger penalties for you, but in addition that you’ve a secure method to categorical your feelings. So possibly we have to discuss it. Maybe we’re gonna sing. Maybe we’re gonna have a mood tantrum collectively. Maybe we’re gonna go for a stroll. Like, what is that this factor for every little one that helps them have a instrument? And I believe, like, for me, no less than that’s an enormous factor I give it some thought, like, what are instruments that might truly assist in regardless of the scenario is.

 

Another piece that appears to return into play is surroundings as nicely. Like, I’ve talked about this with earlier podcast visitors. Like, we’ve got the thought as people, we perceive we form our surroundings, but in addition our surroundings shapes us, whether or not it’s what we’re sitting on and our posture, right down to the issues which are in our surroundings will affect the actions that we’re doing. So any suggestions for curating an amazing surroundings that helps construct a few of these techniques naturally or that encourages youngsters naturally to play or be artistic, or be bored?

 

Mariah: I’m a extremely huge advocate of simplicity in areas for youths and toy rotation. Toy rotation is like the perfect factor ever I believe for youngsters, particularly younger youngsters. I believe a lot of the time, youngsters are overstimulated. And it doesn’t imply that you must do away with all of your toys, or something like that, however the extra we are able to take issues away which are extra and form of simply give youngsters a number of issues, the extra they’ve area to search out that creativity, and the move, and the boredom, and all these issues. So, you recognize, having only a few toys out at a time in a room and conserving every little thing else put up in a closet, after which each couple of weeks, you deliver them again out. And the opposite added good thing about that’s that the great issues about youngsters is that they neglect concerning the toys whereas they’re gone. And so, after they come again, they’re model new and thrilling once more. But additionally relating to your routines and issues like that, you recognize, having issues being accessible for youths.

 

You know, I really like the Montessori model setup, the place every little thing’s inside attain, every little thing is allowed to be touched. And, you recognize, that’s not at all times practical on your whole dwelling. And that’s completely nice. But that in youngsters’s bedrooms, that they’ll attain their very own garments and get them out, and that of their loos that their stool is ready up, you recognize, the place they’ll climb up safely and brush their very own tooth, and issues like that, as a result of particularly youthful youngsters are actually motivated by that autonomy, actually, youngsters of all age are motivated by that autonomy and, you recognize, want for independence. And so, the extra you set it up that they’ll really feel empowered in that, the much less combating you’re gonna need to do and the much less you’re going to need to do for them. You know, such as you stated about your youngsters doing their laundry as quickly as they’re in a position, you recognize, that’s the best way I used to be raised. And I believe that children naturally need to do issues for themselves as a part of being a toddler, you recognize, is that they wanna be taught they usually need to develop. And so the extra you make that, like, virtually accessible to them of their area, the simpler over time we’re all going to have.

 

Katie: Absolutely. And I believe, yeah, simply something… I’m an enormous fan of nonspecific toys, so issues like Legos, Montessori toys are nice, issues that might be rotated out and in and that like result in creativity versus you’re making an attempt to do it one explicit means. And this fashion has one explicit means you possibly can play with it. I additionally love in our home having artwork provides at all times out there. I decided early on that our home was meant to be lived in. And so there have been going to be handprints and footprints from handstands on the wall, and there was gonna be paint on the kitchen desk. And I’ll simply get a brand new kitchen desk when all my youngsters are grown. But for now, it’s gonna be colourful, and that’s nice. But simply issues like that or, like, if we wish our youngsters to maneuver extra, I’ve talked about placing issues like yoga swings within the room or a gymnastics mat within the hallway. Like, youngsters naturally have all these motion patterns. So simply placing issues as reminders of their means of regardless of the factor is creativity, or motion, or no matter it’s.

 

But I really like these sensible suggestions. And I do know you’ve gotten so, so many extra in your work as nicely. So I’m gonna hyperlink to you within the present notes. For all of you guys listening, that’s wellnessmama.fm. So you guys can discover Mariah, and be taught from her as a result of she posts numerous nice stuff associated to all of the issues we’ve talked about. I do know you’re employed with folks immediately, as nicely, so if folks need to attain out to you. And as we get towards the tip of our time, a pair different questions I like to ask, the primary being, if there’s a e-book or a lot of books which have had a profound impression in your life, and in that case what they’re and why.

 

Mariah: Yeah, it’s so humorous I assumed rather a lot about this query as a result of, in fact, it feels so exhausting to decide on only one. And I went via in my head all of those, like, spirituality books or private growth. And then what’s so humorous is I felt drawn to share one thing from my childhood, which is, as a bit woman, I used to be obsessive about the “Little House on the Prairie” books by Laura Ingalls Wilder. And we simply named our son Wilder. And so it’s one thing that’s necessary to my husband and I each. And I believe that, you recognize, we’re all such merchandise of our conditioning. And for me, that was such an enormous a part of what I used to be drawn to as a bit child. And so it nonetheless feels so necessary to me as a result of I believe these books communicate to household and the simplicity of household life. You know, they’re actually about… I used to play for hours, you recognize, scenes from these books as a result of I cherished that what they actually had been about had been {our relationships} with one another and about form of the day-to-day issues that we did, you recognize, turning butter and making garments. And I believe it’s so humorous that that’s in some methods actually linked to what I do at present.

 

Katie: I cherished that collection too after I was rising up. My youngsters are studying it now, and it’s so enjoyable to see them get to undergo that journey as nicely. I really like the identify Wilder. Congratulations in your new infant, by the best way. And any parting recommendation you wanna go away with the listeners, might be associated to every little thing we’ve talked about or one thing fully unrelated?

 

Mariah: I imply, I’d say if I may share one factor with mother and father, basically, I’d simply say that, you recognize, I do know it’s so tough to listen to that recommendation that everyone likes to share that, oh, the times are brief. And you recognize, I’m sorry, the times are lengthy and the years are brief, so take pleasure in it whereas it final. But that basically if you are able to do one factor to make a shift in your loved ones, it’s to discover a method to be current within the instances when you’re along with your youngsters. So, you recognize, it’s unimaginable to be current with them on a regular basis and likewise to take the strain off of that and again to the mother guilt to let go of that must be current on a regular basis however actually to decide on instances when you’re utterly giving your undivided consideration to your loved ones and your youngsters with the intention to soak in these moments if you’re capable of after which take the strain off the remainder of the time that you just don’t have to try this the entire time.

 

Katie: I believe that’s an ideal place to wrap up. And I’m deeply appreciative of your work. I believe you’re tackling an enormous subject like we talked about to start with with mother guilt and all these cultural expectations which are making one thing a lot tougher than it must be. And I believe there’s numerous freedom for us as mothers to find these easy shifts that may make such an enormous distinction. And that anytime we may help mothers make these shifts, we assist households make these shifts, and we assist society make these shifts. I believe you’d agree I stated rather a lot on this podcast, however that mothers are probably the most highly effective drive within the universe. And I really like that your work is so supportive of mothers and households. Thank you a lot on your time and being right here at present.

 

Mariah: Thank you a lot. It’s nice speaking with you.

 

Katie: And thanks as at all times, to all of you for sharing your most dear assets, your time, your power, and your consideration with us at present. We’re each so grateful that you just did, and I hope that you’ll be a part of me once more on the following episode of the “Wellness Mama” podcast.

 

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